What To Do After A Breakup: How To Begin the Healing Process
Wondering what to do after a breakup? Whether you are headed for divorce or not, a break up can cause you to have many feelings. It is normal to experience sadness, anger, hurt, grief and more. And even though it is okay to feel those things, your goal is to go through the healing process so that you can ultimately feel better.
Here are some tips on how to heal after a break up:
Get your emotions “off your chest.” You are going to be feeling many things. Don’t try to avoid them or bottle them up inside. Talk to your family and/or friends about what you are going through. They are there to offer support. You may also want to keep a journal. Writing down your thoughts and feelings is a great way to get them off your chest.
Let go of your former goals. You and your spouse may have had plans of where you were going to live, vacation, and eventually retire. It’s okay to let those things go. You didn’t fail. Those goals just weren’t meant to be.
Know that you have a future. You may have to let the “goals” of your former life go, but know that you do have a future. You will be happy again. You will learn new things and meet new people. You have your whole life in front of you, and it will be full of challenging and joyful new things.
Don’t compare yourself to others. Maybe you know someone else who has been divorced. Don’t compare yourself to them. That was them, this is you. You are not on their timeline. You get to create your own timeline.
Do something for yourself. Treat yourself to something nice. It can be something as simple as a new outfit, a day at the spa, or dinner at your favorite restaurant. This is a difficult time – and it’s important to be nice to yourself.
Consider talking to a professional. If you are having a difficult time and nothing seems to be helping you heal, you may want to talk to a professional therapist or counselor. They can offer a third party view of the situation which may help to give you some clarity, and they may also teach you some coping skills.
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