Richard & Kari’s Huffington Post Articles
DEALING WITH THE SOON-TO-BE EX: YOU CAN’T WIN AN ARGUMENT BY ARGUING
While most divorcing spouses do not fundamentally desire the additional pain and expense of a court battle, many wind up in a divorce war without ever understanding what triggered it. There are always the obvious reasons, e.g., one or both spouses is greedy, angry, emotionally handicapped…
WHAT DO DIVORCE LAWYERS DO IN THEIR OWN DIVORCES?
They try to stay out of court. Despite their familiarity with the system, and despite any perceived advantage they are believed to have, they do everything they can to settle their case before it reaches the court system. Divorce insiders try to resist the inclination to fight. They think going…
WHAT MOST PEOPLE DON’T KNOW ABOUT DIVORCE MEDIATION
Despite divorce mediation’s well-deserved reputation as a sensible alternative to fighting it out in court, we find that few people know very much about it. Divorce mediation is not all that the public seems to think it is. This post aims to clear up some of the common misunderstandings associated…
NINE NASTY THINGS THAT DIVORCING SPOUSES SAY TO ONE ANOTHER
Divorce lawyers hear it all. We hear tragic stories, engaging stories, and just about every other type of story. We also learn of the dime-a-dozen, intimidating remarks that the other spouse says to our clients. These timeless and overused comments are universal and are repeated daily in law…
HOW TO SELL YOUR SPOUSE ON A DIVORCE SETTLEMENT
The best way to divorce is to do it quickly, and as painlessly and inexpensively as possible. To accomplish this, the divorcing parties must be able to settle their differences out of court. This involves persuasion — both spouses must do what they can to sell the other on a settlement that both find…
FOUR TIPS TO HELP YOU SETTLE YOUR DIVORCE OUT OF COURT
Divorcing couples will invariably speak with one another about who should get what in the divorce. These conversations are a normal part of the dissolution process, and provide the parties with an opportunity to vent and to plead their cases. Because the spouses are hopeful of selling the other…
THE BIGGEST OBSTACLE TO AN EARLY DIVORCE SETTLEMENT
The biggest obstacle to an early divorce settlement is when one spouse wants a divorce and the other spouse doesn’t. This circumstance is not uncommon at the start of most divorce cases. Divorce is difficult enough when both parties agree that it’s time, but having the parties at odds about…
HOLD ONTO YOUR HAT: INTRODUCING THE NEW WAY TO DIVORCE
I have practiced divorce law for 48 years. I’ve worked with and against just about every type of divorcing spouse imaginable: unreasonable, practical, obstinate, angry, vengeful, combative, miserly, and emotionally challenged, to name but a few. You cannot swim in the waters that I have for almost…
SANE DIVORCE IS ABOUT SALESMANSHIP, NOT WAR
Most people do not want their divorce to be nasty. Why would they? No one aspires to spend money on lawyers or put themselves through the legendary rigmarole of the court system. The best way to prevent the divorce legal system from adding another layer of complexity to your divorce…