Dealing with Divorce

Broken Partnership AgreementAre you dealing with an impending divorce and all that goes along with it? Change can be hard to deal with for many people, and it seems that separations and divorces are full of change. You may find yourself living in a new place with new belongings and a new routine, which is basically, a whole new life, all in one fell swoop.

If you are having a hard time coping with all of the change that is surrounding you, here are some tips to help you:

Accept Your Feelings: You may be trying to avoid your feelings. You may be feeling hurt, rejected, and angry. Those are not the best feelings to have, and instead of facing them, you may be trying to hide them or ignore them. Instead of pretending they don’t exist, try facing them. Accept them. It’s okay to feel them. Give yourself time to feel sad, and then decide it’s time to move on from those feelings to better feelings.

Choose Your Attitude: You may not always get to choose what happens to you in life, but you do get to choose your attitude. Instead of saying “why me” or being resentful of the things you are upset about, make a list of the things you are grateful for. Think about the things that you have that others do not have. Be thankful for what you have.

Embrace The Change: Yes, things in your life are changing. You can choose to embrace these changes and look at them in a positive light. Instead of thinking “I have to change” tell yourself that “I get to change.” This can be a positive, exciting time in your life. Change leads to new opportunities. Without change, you become stagnant; and nothing can stay the same forever.

Talk To Your Friends: Everyone goes through rough patches from time to time. Do not be embarrassed to ask for help. Call a friend if you need to get out of the house or vent your emotions. Let them know that you’re feeling lonely and can use a shoulder to lean on. Chances are, they have been in a similar situation where they needed a shoulder to lean on, too.

Learn To De-stress: Change can be stressful. Carrying extra stress can be bad for your health. You can relieve stress in many ways. Try some of the following: working out regularly, yoga, meditation, hot baths, aromatherapy, and massage.

Does it seem like your situation may end up in divorce? Richard and Kari are Dupage Divorce Attorneys who welcome hearing from you and we invite your questions. There is no obligation. No one will ever know that we spoke or what we discussed. Everything you say is privileged, confidential, and completely classified. We do not maintain a mailing list and will not contact you unless you ask us to.

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Richard and Kari are staunch advocates of the non-court approach to divorce, and are also active and seasoned litigators with over 60 years of combined trial experience in the Illinois divorce courts of Cook, DuPage, and Will counties.