Avoiding Anger and Blame
- Never bite the hand that is negotiating with you. Be appreciative that they are talking settlement with you.
- Blaming is biting, and so is showing anger.
- Both anger and blaming are counterproductive, and neither can ever get us what we want.
- You cannot be guilty of blaming if you never mention things that have already happened.
- Blaming your spouse will make him/her angry and angry people do not compromise.
- Never show your anger. It accomplishes nothing.
- Anger never sells anyone on anything.
- Angry people do not settle, they fight.
- Angry people make bad decisions.
- You cannot lessen your spouse’s anger until you can control your own.
- Your anger is your spouse’s best weapon.
- Never, ever get hooked by your spouse’s anger. Ignore it, and carry-on in a normal and pleasant tone of voice.
- Reason has little power against anger.
- Showing anger closes our spouse’s ears and prevents us from making our point.
- Anger distorts our perception, twists our thinking, and impairs our ability to solve problems.
- Showing anger gives our partners continued justification to see themselves as the victim.
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