Answer: In my frame of reference, this statement can have two different meanings, depending upon the context in which it is used.

If it seems to relate to the divorce in general, the speaker is depicting the parting of the ways as mutual and not more painful to one party than to the other. It can be a way of being gracious toward the other party, a way of saving one’s face, or it may be to assure family and friends that no one is at fault and that everything is under control.

The other interpretation has more to do with how the speaker depicts the spouses’ behavior toward one another during their various day-to-day dealings and during the negotiation process.

“It is agreed” can speak volumes as to the mutuality of the divorce itself or of the parties’ character and ability to resolve its terms sensibly.

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