It is important for divorcing couples to be able to communicate with one another. However, this is often difficult to accomplish, considering the emotional turmoil of the dissolution process.
The best way to keep the lines of communication open is to ask questions in response to your spouse’s oppositional statements, instead of differing with them. Pose questions that delve into the reasons behind your partner’s thinking.
Here are some questions that can help you maintain a meaningful dialogue:
- What is your number one concern?
- What do you see as an obstacle to our being able to settle this?
- How can I prove that I am willing to meet you half way?
- Can I ask you to elaborate on why you feel XYZ is fair and equitable? What factors do you take into account?
- Is there any concession that I can make to help sway your thinking?
- Can you name one or two things that I can do to tempt you to say yes?
Asking questions helps to avoid negativity and softens opposition. Questions suggest that you are open to considering more than just your own wishes, and this is significant because the best way to persuade is to show that you can be persuaded.