Achieving peace and harmony in a divorce may seem just a little far-fetched.
Most friendly divorces are more than luck and usually require some restraint and diplomacy.
Anticipate that the two of you will not see eye-to-eye on many issues and prepare yourself to be patient. Settlements rarely happen on the first try. Continue reading Negotiating One-on-One with Your Spouse
- This may be the way for you to proceed if you think that the divorce can be worked out amicably.
- First either you or your spouse must come to our office to retain us.
If we hope to convince our soon-to-be ex to agree to a sensible out of court settlement, we cannot place any blame our spouse and we cannot allow ourselves to display anger. Continue reading The Double Whammy of Anger and Blame Part Two
Listening to your spouse’s perspective can be painful because you know they see things “incorrectly,” while you see things “correctly.” Continue reading Divorce Settlement Conversations between Spouses
Divorcing couples have difficulty believing that there could be two sides to the story. Once their settlement conversations begin, however, it is profitable and productive for them to at least pretend that there could be two sides. Continue reading Avoiding Divorce Court
A sensible way to learn something is by accepting guidance from someone who already knows it. When we want to learn how to knit, drive, play the piano, or use karate, we find an expert and take lessons. Need tax help? We talk to a CPA. Continue reading They Never Gave Us Divorce Lessons
Negotiation is the process of persuading others to give us what we want in exchange for something they want. When a couple’s problems lead to divorce, knowing what to say during settlement conversations with your soon-to-be ex can save you months of frustration and thousands of dollars. Continue reading Using Persuasion to Disarm Your Spouse
Society has just experienced a century of costly, damaging, and painful divorce wars and, until recently, has done nothing to correct the situation. Continue reading The Secret to Settling Your Divorce