Conventional wisdom has always warned against being the one to make the first offer during divorce negotiations, strongly advising us to wait for the other side to go first. This point of view insists that the party making the first offer rings a bell that can never be un-rung, that it shortens the playing field, and that it sets a limit on the best deal the offer-making party can ever expect to receive. Continue reading Getting Your Spouse to Settle Out of Court – Should You Make the First Offer?
As divorce lawyers in DuPage County, we find that most clients are driven to engage in one-on-one settlement conversations with their soon-to-be ex-spouses prior to and during their divorces. This is something we are all inclined to do; it seems to be part of our natural healing process. Continue reading How to Convince your Stubborn Spouse to Settle Out of Court
What should you do if you learn that your spouse is having an affair?
If you hope to save the marriage, you should not react the way most of us would by saying whatever comes to mind. This is counterproductive and can easily drive the unfaithful spouse further away. Continue reading What to Say to a Cheating Spouse.
One-on-one divorce settlement conversations with your spouse are doomed if either of you fails to demonstrate good listening skills.
You have the right to plead your case, but you do not have the right to make your partner listen. Continue reading How to Settle Out of Court, Our Non-Court Approach
It is important for divorcing couples to be able to communicate with one another. However, this is often difficult to accomplish, considering the emotional turmoil of the dissolution process. Continue reading Communicating with Your Soon-to-Be Ex
Effectively maintaining a line of communication during your divorce can be as simple as using the proper tone of voice. Concern and sincerity can be reflected through inflection and pitch–as can lack of concern and insincerity. Tone of voice can move you in the right direction or back you into a corner. Continue reading Tips for Keeping It Simple
When your spouse explodes, patiently wait for them to stop, and then acknowledge their reaction. By simply saying, “I can hear that you are upset,” you are establishing that you are listening and that you recognize your spouse’s right to such a reaction. Don’t say their opinion is wrong. Continue reading Handling an Angry Soon-to-Be Ex
By definition, perspective is how we see or understand something. It is what gives us our point of view.
Perspectives are the result of our life experiences. They run deep within us and are extremely difficult, if not impossible, to change. Continue reading Dealing with Your Spouse’s Stubbornness
In a successful divorce settlement, each partner will give up something they want in order to make the settlement attractive to the other side. To do this, it is critical that you: Continue reading How to Persuade Your Spouse to Settle Out of Court
Divorcing couples are more likely to reach a mutually amicable settlement if they agree in advance to set some “house rules” to govern their negotiation sessions. Continue reading Money Saving Divorce Negotiation Tips