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Addendum to the Participation Agreement

Law Firm of Kulerski and Cornelison

Cooperative Divorce Law

Addendum to Agreement to Participate

We, _______________________ and ______________________, the parties to the attached Cooperative Divorce Law Agreement to Participate dated _____________ , do hereby agree to do our best to conduct ourselves in full compliance with the behavioral suggestions contained in this Appendum.

We agree:

  • To act in good faith during negotiations
  • To maintain and encourage a spirit of good will during negotiations
  • To focus on meeting the financial and emotional needs of our children
  • To address and negotiate all items pertaining to our spouse’s interim and permanent needs or concerns
  • To promote plentiful and healthy parenting time for both parents
  • To maintain the status quo of all assets, account balances, debts, and general financial wherewithal of the family
  • To maintain all existing insurance coverage
  • To refrain from incurring any unnecessary or unreasonable, additional credit card or other debt
  • To focus on problem solving instead of fighting
  • To listen carefully to the other party’s point of view
  • To attempt to learn and understand the other party’s concerns
  • To make room in our mind to house the other party’s point of view
  • To show respect for the other party’s settlement position
  • To refrain from interrupting when the other party is speaking
  • To refrain from making any facial gestures of disapproval
  • To overlook and tolerate harsh remarks or anger outbursts from the other party
  • To share financial and other pertinent information in a timely manner
  • To waive formal discovery whenever appropriate
  • To use joint appraisals and mutually acceptable experts before obtaining individual expert opinions
  • To look at the big picture and use the best interests of the family unit as a template when framing our individual settlement position
  • To make only realistic settlement demands
  • To keep an open mind toward compromise at all times
  • To consider compromising if the other party indicates a similar willingness to compromise
  • To continue communicating even when settlement seems impossible
  • To agree that to reconvene within 24 hours, no matter what, whenever a negotiation sessions ends on a particularly sour note
  • To consider using a mediator if our negotiations deadlock on only one or two issues
  • To continue negotiating until there is clearly no hope left of reaching a settlement

Dated this ________ day of ________________ , 20___

____________________________                     _____________________________


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